Some things you build. Some things you stand on.
When you raise a child in a country that is not the one you are from, two things are building an identity in that child at the same time. School is building somebody who fits in here. You are building somebody who is connected to home. Both of you are right, and you are not building the same thing.
A child who manages both looks like a child who is fine, which is what makes it easy to miss. The question arrives much later, when somebody asks who they are and they find they have an address rather than an answer.
Our books are built on one idea. Identity is not a structure, it is a foundation. You can build anything you like on top of it: an accent, a school, a career, a life your grandmother would not recognise. And when a storm takes the structure down, and one always does, the foundation is what you rebuild from.
We write for the child, and we write for the adult reading aloud, because both of you are living this.

If you are raising a child in a country you did not grow up in, this book was written for both of you.